How to Stop Taking Things Personally
Guys, it's about time.
Now, taking things personally was something I really struggled with most especially during the Covid-19 lockdown. I think this actually stems off from me being an over thinker back then and I constantly felt offended by situations clearly beyond my control.
During those times, I knew I couldn’t continue that way, so what did I do? Like every other regular person I went to Google and YouTube and I found a lot of people who talked about the signs and solutions of taking things personally.
Even then, my perspective only fully changed when I read a book titled “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz and here I am writing an article about not taking things personally. Lol!
What you should know first of all is that not everything is about you. Yes, the world doesn’t revolve around you. The fact is people don’t really care about what you do. Before I knew this, I’ve always felt like a lot of people are watching what I do, ready to criticize and all that, but, NOBODY REALLY CARES. Do what you want to do and stop worrying about what others think of you. Everyone is going through certain things in their own lives too.
Maybe you post something on your WhatsApp status, Instagram story, Twitter or Snapchat and you expected certain people to react and they didn’t. And you’re thinking, “Didn’t these people see this post? Why are they not saying anything about it? What you’re doing is seeking validation or approval from others.
Another thing is that you should be content with yourself and focus on yourself. You can’t change people. I saw a quote which says “Think of how hard it is to change one of your habits and then think of how harder it will be to change someone else’s”. You are not God. People sometimes need to experience things themselves before they can change their mind-set.
Even sometimes when a situation gets very personal and someone insults you directly, it still isn’t about you, it’s how THEY feel about you and that feeling or opinion is not valid. Nothing other people do is because of you but because of themselves.
Rather than worrying about what someone thinks of you, find ways to improve yourself and be the best version of who you are. So when someone rejects you it’s not about you, it’s about them not wanting to be with you. Don’t forget to surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, encourage you and with whom you’re your most self.
Writing this article doesn’t mean I’m above taking things personally. I still struggle with bits and pieces but looking back at the Covid-19 lockdown when I really struggled with it, I’ve definitely come a long way and I’m happy with my growth.
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Yours in Love,
LamLam
P.S; if you haven’t read the The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, please read it. It’s a good book.
Thank you so much for this dear ❤️
Nice 👍👍, very educative